For many of us, we were told by well meaning teachers, parents, coaches etc, to "draw within the lines" and came to learn that "no" was something to avoid - and when we heard it - we were doing something wrong. Fast forward to today. Many of us – especially if you have a tendency to the shy or introverted side - do everything they can to avoid failure, "rejection" and having people say NO to them! After all, we are not eager to look or feel like failures!

Yet, avoiding situations where you may face rejection and hear "No" is a recipe for mediocre success. So today, it is time to adopt a new mindset.

If you are working your business and you are thinking about yes and when you get a “yes” you feel good and when you get a ”no” you feel bad, then you are going to feel bad a lot. Because, the truth is, there can be a lot of rejection out there. If you are feeling bad about the “no’s” you get, you might slow down, get discouraged; you might even quit altogether. And now all the learning and the time you’ve spent on your business will be for nothing.

So, the key question is, how do you start feeling good about hearing “no?” You can do it by reprogramming the way you think about it. You must think differently about the no’s that you are hearing. The truth is that when you hear “no” you are taking action in your business and that is a very good thing! Remember that we can only control our own behavior and actions – not the result. So even if you get a NO, reward yourself for the behavior. Eventually one of the NO’s will turn into a YES! In fact, when you go out of your way to increase the number of “no’s” you get, the yeses will show up at your door in greater quantities than you ever could have imagined!

So here’s an exercise to do: Starting tomorrow, every time someone tells you “no” immediately say to yourself, “Great I am one step closer to yes!” At first it’s going to feel strange and you might feel like you’re lying to yourself, but eventually you will find that hearing “no” loses some of the negative power over your emotions. And when a few of the "no's" turn into yeses, you'll also see that you have set yourself up on right path to finally achieving your goals and dreams.

Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz help people achieve their full potential by intentionally increasing their failure rate. They are the authors of "Go for No!" a short story written specifically for people who must face failure and rejection to be successful. Learn about how this powerful concept can change your life here: www.goforno.com and buy the book for just $12!

Interesting huh? The way it is for introverts, don't we already spend a lot of time in our heads? Then why not spend time with the suggested exercise?

Turning No From Bad to Good is a post from: Business Sales Coach for Introverts and Shy